How to Build Trust in Your Relationships

2010 November 11

by Tyler

Last week my friend and co-worker Janet spoke to a college class of worship leaders. She went to speak on the importance and value of team in church ministry. Obviously part of team means creating and building trust among the team members.

We both discussed this back and forth for a while. I’ve always known trust to be built over a long period of time and lost in an instance. It’s one of the hardest things to get in relationships and in teams, and one of the easiest things to lose.

Here are the key 5 things we came up with as far as building trust in our relationships:

Shared Values. If you don’t each value the same things, you’ll never be on the same page.
Time. Trust takes time, it doesn’t happen overnight.
Shared Experience. Experiencing something with others, whether good or bad, only helps build trust.
Perseverance through Conflict Together.
Have Tough Conversations. It isn’t really trust if you can’t share and discuss the good and bad together.

What would you add?

How important is trust in relationships?

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http://melindalgroth.blogspot.com/ Melinda

That is an on-target list!
I’d add: That each person on the team be respected as needed, as opposed to being undervalued.
http://www.contentunderpressure.net Josh

Great list, man.

The only thing I’d add would be # 5 about 10 more times.
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http://betanarrative.blogspot.com Dan

Funny, I’m working on a project right now describing different elements of an effective team. Here’s the list I came up with. It’s a little overwhelming, but maybe one or two will stick out to you.

Trust
Productivity
Communication
Common Purpose
Respect
Mutual Benefit
Designated Roles
Christ
Leaders
Followers
Submission
Understanding
Clear performance roles/expectations
Relaxed atmosphere
Everyone participates
Healthy disagreement
Everyone carries their own weight
Constructive criticism
Continued growth and development
Cooperation
Preparation
Availability
Janet

I trust you.
Janet

P.S. “trust evicts complaint. They are simply incompatible roommates.” -Adam Hamilton #wcagls
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